Holidays can be some of the most challenging times for blended families. Traditions can become complicated. You will want to create new traditions, and if your split from your ex was ugly, you may want to eradicate any old traditions. The children will struggle because the way that holidays were celebrated before will change, especially if they miss any old regular traditions that are discarded due to painful memories.
New custody schedules also complicate holidays. The holidays are for families, and when you have children, you never imagine having to spend one holiday or birthday without them, but divorce will make this a reality. Instead of being joyous, the first few holidays may involve one partner or the other dealing with sadness due to the change or missing their children. Be careful that this doesn't cause bitterness and resentment because you feel your partner can't deal with things and is ruining the holiday.
The best approach is empathy and vulnerability in expressing your feelings and asking how you can help. Dealing with feelings and issues and being determined to create your new holiday styles are also best. Include your children in any ideas and thoughts and get their feedback. This will allow them to feel they have some control in a world that seems chaotic for them.
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